“So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” -  Isaiah 55:11

It seems that as I grow in my spiritual understanding, I realize the truth in the bible verse above more clearly. I often prove the power of my words in ways that help me to achieve my goals. In my daily practice outlined in my books The Path to Wealth and The Gratitude Formula, I declare with gratitude my completed goals manifesting in my life and they often do or I receive something even better. Sometimes, I see evidence that I wasn’t careful enough in how I worded and declared my goals. The results haven’t always made me happy.

For example, I knew that my husband wanted to complete a scholastic endeavor that he’s been working on for several years.  I declared repeatedly; “I’m not booking any vacations or trips for us until you are finished with your project so that you won’t be distracted.” I started to proclaim this often beginning in February 2019. Time passed and several months later I booked a trip for us to go to a family reunion at the beginning of August and another trip that we purchased at an auction for mid-August.  My husband hadn’t completed his project yet and the day before our trip to the family reunion I had a freak accident and broke my arm.  I couldn’t go on either trip.

I love to help people to create the lives that they love. As I was reflecting on this I recognized that many times in my past I’ve failed in asking for help for myself. I don’t know how this pattern got started, but if I could do something myself, I would just do it rather than “impose” on someone else. On many occasions, after I completed a task alone, others would ask me “why didn’t you call me for help – I would have been happy to help you?”

In my mind, I had created a “story” that included the benefits of doing things myself; “I wouldn’t impose on others, I wouldn’t be disappointed if someone said NO, I didn’t have to look weak or incapable.”  How in the world did I learn to create those ideas?

As I analyzed this pattern more, I realized that I wasn’t the only person who felt this way. In looking deeper, I uncovered a fear about possible rejection and separation that many of us share.  Author Amanda Palmer, explains it this way; “From what I've seen, it isn't so much the act of asking that paralyzes us--it's what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one. It points, fundamentally, to our separation from one another.”

Have you experienced this fear pattern too?

I heard a great speaker recently who shared how in the midst of a Storm as in an unexpected terrible situation, it can feel like we’re not going to make it. We can feel ready to give up and wonder “where is God in all of this?” The speaker reminded the audience that only we have the power to choose how to view and react to any situation. As part of that process, we can choose to be a victim and give up or choose to be a victor and survive. It’s a matter of attitude.

Viktor Frankl was a holocaust survivor and the author of a number of books including “Man’s Search for Meaning”. An incredible storm of injustice and terror was thrust upon Frankl and millions of other Jewish people. None of us, unless you’d actually been there, could possibly imagine what Viktor Frankl and others experienced in Nazi concentration camps. This was a terrible storm filled with horror, pain and suffering. Frankl tells us “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” I agree – attitude is vital for survival. Attitude as words, thoughts and emotions, were keys for Frankl in enduring the horrendous situation he was put in.